Aaron was always the first one up as he left home at 7.30 am to get to work, so Kobe would call out to him every morning when he woke up, as he knew he would go straight into his room and jump into bed with him for a few minutes.
When Aaron passed away Kobe was actually asleep (thank goodness!) but the next morning I felt physically sick - not only from the shock of losing Aaron so suddenly, but because I knew that I would have to tell Kobe that his Daddy had died.
When he woke up the next morning he called out straight away 'Daddy!!', thinking that Aaron would go straight in and jump into bed with him. I raced in as soon as I heard him call out, and got into bed next to him and just came out with it. I had no idea what the best thing to do was so I just said 'Daddy's not here Kobes because Daddy died last night'.
He looked at me and said 'huh!?' and I said 'Daddy stopped breathing last night, and the ambulance had to come, and he died. He is now with Noah and Heavenly Father'. He then said 'oh' and just looked at me not really knowing what to say and then asked 'my cousins still here?!'. I told him they were and he was so happy and jumped out of bed to see them.
The rest of the morning while we were packing up to come home, he was happy playing with his cousins, and then every now and then he would say to someone 'my Daddy died'. The next couple of weeks my Mum and brother Chrish stayed with us, and for the first couple of days Kobe would still call out 'Daddy!!' when he woke up. He quickly realised Daddy wasn't around so started to call out 'Chrish!!', or 'Mama!!' (Grandma).
Once they left it changed to 'Mummy!!!' and then after a little while he even started to call out to Jalen. He loves us jumping into bed with him.