Sunday, 9 April 2017

Young and Widowed - Sunday Life Magazine

You can tell it's the weekend as I've finally had a chance to sit down and blog - twice in two days!
About 8 months ago a journalist contacted me as she was wanting to write a piece about young widows for Sunday Life magazine - which is a lift out every Sunday in The Age and Sun Herald newspapers.
She said she had found my blog and was wondering if I was interested in being interviewed. I told her I didn't consider myself to be young, but I guess  I am young to be a widow. 

Today the article was finally published. 

There are a couple of errors - I'm definitely not 46! (turning 43 this year) and I think she was confused about when I had said that I moved house after Aaron passed away, because I had said we were on holidays on the east coast of Tasmania when he died.  We did move house, but we have always been in Tassie.

You can read it online here

Saturday, 8 April 2017

1 Second Everyday - March 2017

I've been very slack with my blog and it's not because there's nothing to talk about or no memories to record, but life is just so busy.  I'm still loving the 1 Second Everyday videos as it's such a quick and easy way for me to record a memory from every day.

This was our March.  When I look back I can't help but think how much we squeeze into a month, even though life can feel mundane and boring most of the time.   Now I'm wondering what April will bring.

Sunday, 12 March 2017

Pieces of him

I absolutely love that each of the boys have part of Aaron's personality in them. Jay has his crazy sense of humour and love of movies and music.  Harri has his passion of all sports (not always a good thing!) and Kobe has his charm and love of sport and all the stats that go along with it. 

I probably shouldn't be surprised since they are his sons, but it still blows me away that they are so much like him even though it's been five years since he died.  Kobe was only 3 years old when Aaron died, so he really doesn't remember anything about Aaron or what he was like, but still he's so much like him.

Jay has gone through different stages and interests since Aaron died. First he was into Minecraft and gaming and making YouTube videos, then he was into superheroes and all the movies and things that go along with that, and even though he still loves watching superhero movies, he's now really into music and media and current events.

Jay decided he wanted to do up his bedroom as it had a lot of superhero stuff which he felt he didn't want anymore.  He asked me if his Dad had any cool vinyls that I still had as he had an idea to put them into frames. 

I still have all of Aaron's things. Some things including his clothes and shoes are in the garage, but his special clothes like his sport geurnseys, vinyl records and things he really treasured are in a blanket box in my bedroom.
Jay searched the box and chose one of the Oasis ones (Aaron's favourite band ever) and three Beatles ones. We had a little laugh how Aaron was probably rolling over in his grave as he was very precious about his things, and would've hated that Jay was putting blu tac at the back of them, but we also knew that he would be loving what he was doing with them.

Jay was so pumped about how it turned out, and they look so good in his room.

Harri and Kobe were excited that he handed on a lot of his Pop Vinyls as he just kept his favourite ones.  I love that he has made his room to suit his personality now, but he also has lots of little pieces of Aaron in there, including photos of him.
The boys all love hanging in there together, and most nights you will find all three of them sitting on or in Jay's bed either watching something together, or just talking.

 Harri loved that Jay had used something of Aaron's in his room, and asked if he could also use something.  He went and looked through the box and pulled out some of the geurnseys.
 Today we finally put them into a frame and he is so excited to have it in his bedroom.


Kobe of course had to get in on the action, and chose his Michael Jordan geurnsey to go into his bedroom.
 I love that they all have pieces of their Dad in their bedrooms and know that Aaron would love it too.

Wednesday, 1 March 2017

One Second Everyday

Life is so busy again now that school is back, and the boys have started up with their sports.  I'm sure my blog posts are going to be few and far between this year,  but I still love to record my memories somehow.  

At the end of last year my friend Makayla shared a video which she made with an app called One Second Everyday.  I loved her video so I decided to do it this year.

These are our January and February videos.  February wasn't half as exciting or as fun as January as we had to get back into school and work routines, but I'm still excited to see how the videos turn out as each month passes, and can't wait till I have a whole year's worth.

Saturday, 25 February 2017

You know it's....

You know it's summer holidays when you wake up and you have no idea what day or date it is. 

You know it's summer holidays when your car is full of sand and you know it's not worth cleaning because it's going to be full of sand all summer.

You know it's summer holidays when you check how many steps you've done on your fitbit, and it's gone back to 0 because it's past midnight!
You know it's summer holidays when you have no where to go, but can go anywhere you want.
You know it's summer holidays when the clothesline is full of bathers and towels every day.
You know it's summer holidays when you run into old friends (almost family!) who you haven't been able to see for ages because life is so busy. It was so lovely to run into Di (one of Noah's carers/teacher aide/second Mum)
You know it's summer holidays when you are picking goodies from our garden every morning.
You know it's summer holidays when it's 6.30 pm and you're still out playing and enjoying the sunshine and you haven't even thought about what's for tea yet.
You know it's summer holidays when you get to watch live cricket but it's your favourite footy team playing! We loved the Ricky Ponting match where Hawthorn played the Kangaroos in cricket.  So many laughs.  

Kobe with his hero - Jack Gunston.
You know that school is back when I haven't done a blog post for 3 weeks! It's crazy how life can be so relaxed one minute and then how busy it can be the next. As busy and tiring as it is, I'm so happy to have full time work again at the same school I was at, at the end of last year. I love working there and it's so busy as an EAL (English as an Additional Language) teacher because almost a quarter of the school are from an EAL background, so there's always lots to do.

I would love a day off, but I also love and need the work so I'm grateful for full time work and I'll take it while it's there. The boy's sports are just about to start up again so life is just going to get busier, but I cope by knowing that it's just 10 weeks each term and then we get a couple of weeks to catch up before it starts all over again.  Until then I'll just keep reminding myself that the next holidays will hopefully be here before we know it.

Monday, 6 February 2017


The holidays have gone so fast (here's hoping term 1 goes just as fast!) and I knew that before the holidays were over that I wanted to make a day trip to St Helens.  I was keeping an eye on the weather forecast and hoped that a good day coincided with one of Jay's days off work. 

It worked out perfectly and I was really looking forward to getting down there with the boys.  It's only our third trip back since Aaron passed away there, and the first time was really hard but this time I didn't feel anxious at all about going back this time.

We decided to go to the sand dunes first.  On the way there we had to drive past the house that Aaron passed away at and Kobe straight away yelled 'that's where Dad died!'. I was surprised that he knew since he was only three when it happened, but he probably realised it from photos that we have from our holidays there

Kobe was so cute when we got to the sand dunes and jumped out to take a photo with his iPad.

Last time the tube didn't work very well on the dunes and we told Jay that, but he was keen to try anyway and was like 'well it won't if you don't give it a go!'.  It still didn't work even though he had faith in it :)
The boys played on the dunes for ages and then we went into town to grab some fish and chips for lunch.
Kobe has a canvas of a photo of him with Aaron on the jetty fishing, which was taken the day before Aaron died.  He loves it and he recognised the spot straight away and wanted to go there to get another photo.  I could tell that he was happy to be somewhere that he knew he had been with his Dad before.
I couldn't wait to get to Binalong Bay as it's my favourite beach.  It's so beautiful - I just wish the water wasn't as freezing as it is! The lagoon has broken back out again this year and was flowing to the ocean. 

Kobe made me laugh as he kept saying 'what!! This lagoon is made by nature!?  Harri! This lagoon is made by nature - people didn't make it!' as he thought all lagoons were like the one at Wet n Wild where you just float round and round in circles.
We really wanted to walk to the other end of the beach and sit on the rocks, but the tide was high which meant it was quite deep to get across the lagoon. Jay and I looked for ages for a shallow spot and we eventually got across by pulling up our shorts as high as we could.  Jay was cracking me and some tourists from Pennsylvania up as we watched him trying to cross.  They were taking photos of the boys swimming in the lagoon.
How white is that sand!
We spent some time on the rocks at the other end of the beach, and Harri had lots of fun jumping in off the rocks.

It was a big day driving there and back in the same day (it's two hours each way) but we had a lovely day and it was nice to see how far we have come in the last five years, and to know that it's still a favourite place to go and it isn't traumatic being there anymore.  It's definitely healing to go there, knowing that we spent so much time with Aaron and Noah there and knowing that Aaron would love us being back there.

I had fun putting together a little video of our day using the 1 second a day app (which I'm so addicted to already!).  It was one of the best days of our holidays.

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