My Helper

Since Aaron passed away I've realised how much he did around the house. I always knew how lucky I was as he was always so hands on with the boys, and also with helping me, but after he passed away I was tearing my hair out realising how much I now had to do on my own. The first couple of months I was very stressed wondering how I was going to keep up with everything, but since then I have got into a pretty good routine where I feel like I'm on top of the house work as well as everything thing else.

I've had a few talks to the boys about helping me out more around the house, and not expecting me to do everything and Harri has been a champion in really trying to help out.   The first month after Aaron died were very stressful.  The boys would often see me in tears each morning as I made their school lunches, got Kobe ready and tried to get the house clean before work, as I was just so tired from everything plus in shock with what had happened,.  Harri then started to get up really early before school to help me get things ready.

I loved that he wanted to help, but I was worried that he wasn't getting enough sleep as he wasn't sleeping well and getting up way too early, so I told him it was okay to sleep in longer and all I wanted him to do were his usual jobs - get dressed for school, pack his bag, make the bed etc.

In the last few weeks he has really been making an effort again to help out.  The other night he said 'I'm going to clean the whole kitchen for you Mum!' and off he went.

Harri is not the one I expected at all to make such a big effort to help out.  He's so proud of himself and happy when he's doing it too. I'm sure Aaron would be proud of him for jumping in and helping me out more too.