tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post5826730471930889603..comments2024-01-10T18:49:06.282+11:00Comments on The Kings: Grief DoubledThe Kingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18086956817658615731noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-17561583612313225832013-12-05T03:48:54.096+11:002013-12-05T03:48:54.096+11:00My name is Daniel Shelton; I am a social worker an...My name is Daniel Shelton; I am a social worker and grief counselor for a hospice in Las Vegas, NV. I have a Google Alert set on my computer for grief and grieving and recently your thoughts popped up. I am always looking for personal thoughts and experiences that might prove useful to those I serve and wanted to thank you for having the courage to share your difficult experiences. I wish you the best of luck in your personal healing and if there is anything I might be able to do to assist please don’t hesitate to ask. <br /><br />PS Not sure if you are LDS or that is just where the service was held but I am also of that faith and it has helped me through some very dark days as a result of my own grief.<br /><br />Sincerely, <br /><br />Daniel Shelton, LSW, MSW<br />Family Home Hospice<br />Bereavement Counselor/Coordinator<br />8655 S Eastern<br />Las Vegas, NV 89123<br />702-671-1111<br />Daniel.Shelton@uhc.com<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-39543275941940242482013-11-22T15:06:00.816+11:002013-11-22T15:06:00.816+11:00My one year mark of losing my sweet son was two da...My one year mark of losing my sweet son was two days ago. I can't even tell you how much your blog has helped me. Has helped me grieve, and helped me feel normal. <br />I pray for you often. As I know how heartbroken you feel...at least to some extent. I can't imagine how you are feeling. But I can tell you, you have so much faith, and its extremely beautiful to read. Reading your posts makes me stronger, makes me feel okay if I have a day where I cry. <br />Some day it will get better. <br />In the mean time, know that your blog, you sharing your thoughts and feelings are literally saving peoples lives. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.<br /><br />Love, Donna.The.Marcellus.Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09810542698548921948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-52545311821228234642013-11-19T21:29:10.185+11:002013-11-19T21:29:10.185+11:00I know that reading your blog is helping me.
My ...I know that reading your blog is helping me. <br />My daughter was very much like your Noah. She passed away 12 weeks ago at the age of 15. She was my only child, so I don't have the issue of keeping going for other kids, but it definitely left an enormous hole in my life, going from 24/7 care to nothing. <br />Reading about your experiences is definately helping me to feel that what I am experiencing is "normal". Thank you!Donnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-30762293772293690322013-11-19T14:36:20.705+11:002013-11-19T14:36:20.705+11:00Lisa, there is no timeline for grief. It takes as...Lisa, there is no timeline for grief. It takes as long as it takes. Yesterday, November 17th, was the third anniversary of my dear David's death. I had flowers on the altar at church in his memory. Also, one of the ladies from my church celebrated her 100th birthday, and that was a very happy occasion. Her nephew invited me to join them all for lunch, and I had an enjoyable time with lovely people. Instead of the day being sad, it was a happy day. A friend of mine, who now lives in France, has suggested to me to keep on keeping on, and that is what I am doing. I am sad at times, but not like I used to be. I feel that I have turned the corner, and for that I am grateful. A woman who had lost her husband suddenly, also with a heart attack as you did with Aaron, told me that "it gets softer". He had been gone for 6 years. I didn't understand what she meant then, but I do now. I'll always miss David and will always love him and have wonderful memories of all that we did together. Your Aaron was so young and to be taken away so soon after Noah is something that I can't even comprehend. You are a strong person, and you had to cave in sometime because you tried to keep going for the sake of the boys. They are having a hard time as well. I'm glad that you were able to see someone, have medication to help you through that rough period, and that you are feeling much better. And it is o.k. to cry. I don't as much as I used to, but there are times when something will trigger a thought and I'm off and running. Thank you for sharing your experience, as I am sure it will help many of us who are grieving for our loved ones. Sending you love and hugs from Massachusetts.shirlgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11094823128199841249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-64675923406335819322013-11-19T05:21:07.403+11:002013-11-19T05:21:07.403+11:00Dear Lisa,
You are an amazing, strong, inspiring ...Dear Lisa, <br />You are an amazing, strong, inspiring beautiful woman...<br />All the love you have for your boys, in heaven and in earth is so real and so powerful, <br />and your writing helps so many people around you ....thank you for being so open and honest and for sharing your blog with the world...Im sure Aaron and Noah are watching you and your boys, and they are so proud of you!!<br />Much much love from CaliforniaRainnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-87680529178998061192013-11-19T05:19:36.680+11:002013-11-19T05:19:36.680+11:00I will never get sick of hearing how things are. I...I will never get sick of hearing how things are. I have enjoyed you being willing to share this journey with so many. <br />A book I think you would enjoy is This Is How We Grow by Christi Hibbert, she is a psychologist who had to deal with a lot of grief all at once as well. This book isn't a "This is how I dealt with it and how you should too." But rather a journey of a woman and her insight gives so much meaning to the fact that everyone grieves in their own way. <br />Prayers and hugs sent your way!Heather Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17850995893317730862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-60542333271515471002013-11-19T02:50:49.970+11:002013-11-19T02:50:49.970+11:00Thank you for writing. My Dad unexpectadly passed ...Thank you for writing. My Dad unexpectadly passed away 15 months ago and my one sister told me how she's so proud of how "well" my Mom is doing. My Mom said, I'm glad you tell people that and feel that way because I just cry everyday. My Mom's kids are grown so she's all alone in the house, which I hate as well but your words are good to know and I hope to be able to gain wisdom reading your blog as my Mom and I discuss life sometimes. Thank you for writing about it. It helps so many people as we learn (in our own different circumstances) from you and can read how the emotions we go through are what others feel. I don't know what I'm trying to say because I can't find the words but thank you. Thank you so much for sharing such personal life lessons. Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817293110332167796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-17726011288892648572013-11-19T01:14:00.608+11:002013-11-19T01:14:00.608+11:00Sending love and hugs from Connecticut, USA.
I tr...Sending love and hugs from Connecticut, USA.<br /><br />I truly think you are an inspiration to many more people than just the ones that comment. Continue to be true to who are you are! Francinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183474765074798139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-85980824594877947842013-11-19T00:01:00.222+11:002013-11-19T00:01:00.222+11:00Lisa - I wanted to tell you that you have made a B...Lisa - I wanted to tell you that you have made a BIG difference in how I am dealing with my own grief over the loss of my son Jonathan (almost 21 months ago). Some days I am so sad, I honestly don't know what to do with my grief: hold it in, let it out, hide it from everyone....especially at this time of year. You help me to realize that I am NOT going crazy - that my sadness is real and justified and that people who tell me to "move on" don't get it at all! I hope you never ever stop writing about Noah and Aaron. It is lovely to read about them and the wonderful things they brought to your life. I wish I could just go into a deep hole from Thanksgiving thru Christmas and not come out until January 2nd ---- but I know that isn't good for me. <br /><br />So - from one grieving mother to another: thank you. DianeTaylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05302878458733208960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-13693219748455012922013-11-18T23:37:08.260+11:002013-11-18T23:37:08.260+11:00We aren't your 'readers'. We are your ...We aren't your 'readers'. We are your friends even though we may never meet you and live all over the world. You just write whatever you want, whenever you want. xoxoxoxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-74267033829322815652013-11-17T19:17:02.983+11:002013-11-17T19:17:02.983+11:00Lots of Love, DinekeLots of Love, DinekeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-85688774387054328012013-11-17T17:11:54.855+11:002013-11-17T17:11:54.855+11:00You have kind thoughts coming to you from all over...You have kind thoughts coming to you from all over the world. Kathaleenyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14561762816125103220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-86431846259209716692013-11-17T04:28:12.019+11:002013-11-17T04:28:12.019+11:00Just keep breathing. You have enriched the world ...Just keep breathing. You have enriched the world around you, and are providing stability, love, an safety to your beloved sons. Just keep breathing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-45623756474423306022013-11-17T03:57:35.342+11:002013-11-17T03:57:35.342+11:00I love that you write so openly and honestly. I d...I love that you write so openly and honestly. I doubt we ever understand what someone else goes through unless we, ourselves, have been through it. We can imagine what it is like, but we never truly know the depth of the pain and grief unless we experience that. <br /><br />I think writing is so therapeutic and I know that reading what you are going through helps me to put things in perspective. You are a truly amazing person. Thank you for your words.Lottihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08590398670143200396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-19190914354601443382013-11-17T03:44:21.124+11:002013-11-17T03:44:21.124+11:00Well....you just keep writing and we will keep rea...Well....you just keep writing and we will keep reading (and rooting for you from all around the Globe!). When my Dad passed away (9 yrs ago), my Mom was physically sick from grief. She was sure she had something terribly wrong in her stomach. She takes on little pill every day for her depression/grieving (Paxil) and it is what saved her. Most people don't have to take it for that long, but whatever it takes, I say! She KNOWS it helps her, and she/we are fortunate that it's the only RX she takes. I've said it before...you are amazing and your boys need their Mum.PeggyMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03742285863685186184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-70714511185583126702013-11-17T02:30:42.610+11:002013-11-17T02:30:42.610+11:00I can't tell you it will be ok, because it nev...I can't tell you it will be ok, because it never is, but I can tell you things will be different. The good, the bad, the ugly, In the end, the real end, you will know the why's, and see the results with different eyes. I pray the Lord will open up glimpses with those different eyes for you and your boys. Be easy on yourself, <br />Dreams can come true!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12721713340985089531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8492407674501440952.post-32028219504815428512013-11-17T00:37:45.538+11:002013-11-17T00:37:45.538+11:00Yes, keep it real. One of the reasons I read your...Yes, keep it real. One of the reasons I read your blog is to understand what it's really like living with loss and grief. So don't worry about readers 'getting bored', because it always interesting to follow your journey, through happy and sad (no matter how long it lasts). Thank you for being willing to share with us :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com